Friday, December 30, 2011

Sigh...

He said to me, "and this how I do handsome Momma..."

Yes indeed my love, yes indeed...

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Kindergarten School Pics...

I received the digital copies of Greyson's school pictures today. If you bought the entire package you got the digital images, so I of course decided that yes indeed I need 12 billion pictures (of 3 poses) of Greyson, all with "I just came from the playground hair"... I mean - who wouldn't??


He slays me this child of mine, his cuteness is just beyond!!

The hair!! Oh the hair...
and that smile... oh... it's too too much!!
How he makes me giggle in these pictures, they are so so so very Greyson Lee... The wacky sweaty messy hair, the smile that is so HUGE and eager, the glasses, the poses all of it is just SO my boy.

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

So guess what is NOT fun?!

Waking up with PINK EYE, while on vacation...


Blah!!





Love and Logic…

We were introduced to the “Love and Logic” concept at Greyson’s school last year, after some reading up on the “concept” we realized that it was relatively close to the way we raise/discipline/teach Greyson or attempt to on average already, and loved the ideas, the thoughts and the ways we could do a better job of incorporating the basic principles into our/his life.

I should probably say first, that why it would be a blast to take all the credit for what a well behaved child Greyson is, I can’t, we just got really really lucky. He’s simply just a good kid and why I realize that we foster his “good” behaviors and give him the best possible environment to let those behaviors shine, the bottom line is, we just have a very chill kid, he’s a rule follower by nature, he aims to please by nature, he’s shy and sweet and often a bit reserved by nature. It makes being parents, disciplinarians, teachers, example setters, and even often friends or our child in a word – easy. Not to say he’s perfect, because trust me, he has his moments, but for the most part, he’s pretty perfect!

The other day I had this great Love and Logic moment with him that I’d wanted to blog about, and since my blog is all depressing and blah right now, I needed something to post so… TaDa!!

Greyson showers with Greg or I on a pretty regular basis, (I realize that this probably could lead to whole additional post about modesty and when is too old to be around your parents naked… and at this point we’re not there, the kid loves to be naked, we’re not a prudish family in any way I guess… I mean come on, I nursed the kid until he was over TWO, what did you expect??) Anyway, on to Love and Logic….

I was getting ready to get in the shower and Greyson said he wanted to take one too, but he was also playing on his I-Pod touch and I knew I didn’t have his full attention.

“Bud, I’m getting in the shower.”

“Ok, I want to come”

“Alrighty, see you in there…”

I took my shower and no Greyson. Now I could have yelled and screamed from the bathroom, but he’s 6 and this was a good opportunity to let him make his choices and deal with the consequences. We had nowhere to go, there was no need for him to take a quick shower, the situation was perfect for a little Love and Logic.

I’m out of the shower getting dressed and in he pops. Instant tears!

“I wanted to take a shower with you!!!”

“I know you did.”

“Why didn’t you come get me?!?!” he cried and cried and kept repeating this…
(Now I could have said – Go to your room until your done crying, I could have said I told you and you didn’t come it’s your own fault, I could have ignored him, yelled at him, told him to stop, forced him to take a shower on his own, I could have given in and taken another shower just to make it easier… lot’s of wrong options that wouldn’t teach him a thing…)

“I’m sorry that your sad and disappointed” (I showed him a little empathy.)

“I really wanted to take a shower with you!”

“I know that you did, what happened?”

“You didn’t tell me!!”

“Are you sure?”

“Well, you did but I got busy playing my game!!” and more tears started.

“Well buddy, I’m sorry that you made a choice that now has you upset and still in need of a shower, I’m going to finish getting ready, and you let me know when you have a solution.”

“What are my options?” (I love that he’s now asking for his options!! Ha!)

“Well, what do YOU think would be good options?”

“I don’t know! You tell me!”

“You’re a super smart boy Greyson, I know you can do this, you think about it for a bit and if you need some help later, I will help you, but I just bet you can come up with GREAT options, all on your own!”

“I want to take another shower with you!”

“I’ve already taken my shower and I’m getting dressed now.”

Sniffles… thinking… sniffles…

“Well, I guess I could take a shower on my own… OR maybe I could take a bath and you could sit and talk to me?”

“Those both sound like great options!”

“Will you sit and talk with me while I take a bath momma?”

“I’ll tell you what bud, you go get your bath started, and I’ll finish up in here and be there when I can.”

And off he happily skipped, feeling in control, feeling like he solved his own dilemma, because he did!! He had the power to make the choices, both good and bad and he learned. He learned about consequences, about problem solving. My hopes are that these small lessons now (lessons that can be taught in controlled circumstances) will lead to him having the confidence and the experience to make good choices, and to be a good problem solver as he gets older and the consequences are much more severe.

Was it the most enjoyable thing to stand there with dripping wet hair on cold tile to talk to my son? Nope. Did I enjoy listening to all the tears? Nope. Did I want to just make him stop, make that moment stop by either yelling or ignoring or giving in – ABSOLUTELY. Was the lesson WAY more important that any of that… ABSOLUTELY!!

Love and Logic… heavy on the love please… :0)

Friday, December 23, 2011

How?

I always think, I just have to get through that date, just get past December 22nd…

But here I am today, December 23rd, and you know what? It’s still just as bad, but like every other day, other than December 22nd, I put on my Heather face and go about my day. Yesterday I spent a lot of the day in bed, I snuggled Greyson and wrestled Greyson and let myself laugh with him, I cried and cried and got mad. I took longs naps and an even longer shower. I let my outsides show my insides… I’m not sure that it helped, not sure that it hurt… All day I kept asking one thing, “How?” How did this happen, How am I still going, How do I keep going, How can I ever be ok… How How How?

This last year has been a struggle for me, more so even I feel than the first two. I have changed so drastically much since that day 3 years ago, and I feel that the majority of those changes happened this year. I find myself wondering how (there I go with the how’s again) I would be, feel, think, react if my son had been born alive. It’s hard for me, to wrap my head around the changes in my life, the path so different than once thought…

I feel emotionally wiped out right now. I’m so thankful for the time off from school, time to snuggle my boy all day, revel in the joy that he brings me each and every day, time to relax and recharge, time to just be.

I’m ready to find my place, to find my pace, my spot, my “me”.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

To my sweet baby boy…

3 years ago.

3 years ago I went to bed having no idea what lay before me. Some days it seems as if it was a life time ago but most days it still feels as raw and as painful as if it were yesterday. I keep thinking that time will heal my heart, time will make it easier, time will get me back to normal – but the truth is sweet love, time can’t heal this. I miss you every single day, I think of you every single day, I feel the huge hole in my life every single day. I wish that 3 years ago tonight I would have known then what I know now. I wish that I would have known what was coming, that I would have been better prepared. There are so many things about that night that haunt mommy still. I didn’t hold you, I was so afraid that you would fall apart, I didn’t kiss your tiny little head or put your teeny tiny fingers in mine. How could I have not held you, I ask myself this question almost daily, I’m so sorry sweet boy, Momma was just so scared… I hate that I didn’t touch you and hold you and kiss your sweet head, I didn’t wrap you up in anything, I didn’t do anything, you were just so impossibly tiny, perfect in every way but so so tiny and I was panicked… It’s no excuse, I should have known better, I should have been better, you deserved better. I want you back, I want you here, I want to wake up from the fog of the last 3 years and find you still growing in my tummy…

But I know I can’t have any of that. I know I have to keep going, for you and for your big brother. So tonight I’ll be sad, and I’ll cry – a lot. But I promise you this sweet boy, I will keep loving you every single day, I will keep striving to be the best mother I can to your big brother, we will keep your sweet memory alive by talking about you and remembering you. Greyson tells everyone we meet about you, it’s really rather sweet. He would have been an amazing big brother, I wish I could have seen the two of you together… So many wishes…

I love you.
Momma

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

...

I looked at your pictures tonight…
It was a lot harder than I thought it would be.
2 years, 51 weeks.
One week away from 3 years.
3 years that you’ve been gone…
My heart hurts, it hurts so very bad.
I still love you, I always will.
I still miss you, I always will...

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

So you think you can dance??

Because this kid has some moooooves, and some days, you just really need a pajama dance party!!




Sunday, November 13, 2011

His FAVORITE park!!

Greyson loves the park, any park really as long as there are swings and slides... However, there is one place that he really really really LOVES! He calls it the "rainbow park" the real name is Magic Forest, and I must admit, it is a pretty awesome park...

Last week Greyson had his 6 year old "well baby (ha!)" appointment, which just happens to be around the corner from this park, so afterwards we went on over.

I don't know if it's just the age he is now or what the deal is, but let me tell you, this kid and I have an absolute blast together lately. We ran around this park like two loony tunes, got on the swings and went as high as we could, giggling and squealing and having our bellies caught. We laughed and raced and crawled and laid in the grass and talked about our day, we... we just simply had the best time ever. We left the park hand in hand our cheeks sore from the laughs and smiles...

This boy of mine... He's so much more than my little man, my side kick, my best buddy... He's my light, my joy, my everything good... He is my proof that no matter what life throws at me, or what life has thrown at me in the past, it's all going to be ok, in fact it's going to be good, great even. Because you see, at the end of the day, I get to kiss his sweet face goodnight...


Welcome to the Rainbow park!!

Cool park right??
why, yes indeed... very cool!
Hello from Pirate Land!! Ahoy Matey!!
Dragon!!


and we laughed until it hurt... and then we laughed some more...


Thursday, November 10, 2011

Marine Land - 2011

Dear Greyson,

A few weeks ago, you and I took off for one of our "famous" Greyson-Mommy dates... Dude, we had so much FUN!! You my little man are just simply fun to be with, you're fun to take places and hang out with. I love to get your perspective on the things we see, your thoughts and feelings about what we experience... I don't know how I got so lucky to have not only the best boy in the world, but to have one of my very best friends wrapped up in the same package! I love you so much, thank you for bringing the fun!!


Whitney Park at Marine Land!!



This time our visit to Marine Land was a little extra special. You are finally old enough to participate in the "Touch and Feed Dolphin Experience"!! and so we did it, and I'm not sure which one of us liked it better, Mommy caught herself squealing and smiling and giggling just as much (if not more!) than you!


Shaking "fins" with Alvin (which is a total rock star name for a dolphin I do believe!!)

More fun with Alvin...

Alvin was totally down for a good belly rub...



After our time with Alvin we spent time checking out the tanks, taking a "behind the scenes" tour and watching some awesome "shows". You asked all of your questions, charmed all the girls and talked mommy into a stuffed dolphin before we left. Often during this day I caught myself hanging back a bit, just watching you, following your lead, listening to your insightful questions or comments... You continue to amaze me each and every day little man. Some days I look at you and am completely stunned, you're so grown up and so, just so very much a kid, and then I look you again and there you are, my sweet, shy, innocent bundle of baby love. I'm so proud of who you are and who you are becoming. I love you always and forever...


Checking out the new 6 week old baby dolphin...

Baby dolphin swims with it's Momma...

Just chillin'...

Proof that momma is sucker and can't say No...

You named your new dolphin... "Alvin" of course!!

My most handsome boy...

Well hello there...

Cute-ness?? Yes indeed.



Later Alliga... err?? Dolphin(ator?)....


Thursday, November 3, 2011

Updates and such...

I feel like time is flying by so fast! How is it already November? Where did our summer go? Before I know it, it will be summer again!! Too busy we are, way too busy! But doing what? That’s just it, we’re too busy just living the day to day!!

So here’s an update!!

Greyson is rocking school like it’s nobody’s business! His favorite subject is Math (shocker!! His momma always loved it and his Daddy’s and Engineer!) he’s coming home with algebra problems and dudes in Kindergarten!! Ca-razy!! He is reading like a champ and writing very well also. He LOVES to sing, I mean Loooooooves!! It’s kind of the most adorable thing you’ve ever seen… Ever!

He is definitely a computer/video game kid. He’s mad about his Wii and begs to play every chance he gets. He runs and wrestles with our dogs and loves them to no end. He’s still crazy about basketball and is back to picking up the golf clubs, much to his daddy’s joy!

He’s tall, so very tall. He’s handsome and sweet and smart and kind. He makes me smile and laugh and fills our home with so much joy. He pretty much rocks our world.

I am busy with the normal mom stuff, running back and forth from school and to all the extra’s. Still running and biking and working out a lot. My November goal is a (minimum) of a 5k a day!! I competed in a few triathlons this summer and loved them, looking forward to spring and tri season again… Until then it’s all running races though!! Lots of little races and maybe a few half marathons leading up to a full (26.2)!! I’m also doing a few century bike rides (that’s 100 mile rides).

Well, off to play a little Wii with the Weeble before bed time…

Xoxo,
Heather

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Saturday, October 1, 2011

On the eve of six…

Dear Greyson,

Six.

I know I tell you this often, but I really can’t believe that you are six.

SIX!!

You’re very excited about being six, I think that it must sound old to you as well. You’re the first in your class to turn six, a whole year older than the rest, it is so cool. Things like that are starting to matter to you now, you care more about what you are wearing, more aware of your hair style, what things you have, things you do… I knew it was bound to happen, your innocence slowly slipping… Mommy can’t help but be a bit sad about it, but on the other hand, I’m getting to see how you handle it, and I couldn’t be more proud of you. You have such a good sense of self, you don’t give into peer pressure, especially in behavior, you are kind and good to everyone, no matter if they are in your social circle or not. Even though your awareness has become more expanded to things that are “cool” or “not” your good heartedness, your kindness, your sweetness has remained strong and true. You are amazing.

Turning six you still love Disney, and computer games and your DS and your Wii… You’re smart as a whip, advancing to 1st grade math, because Kindergarten math was boring you senseless… You’re still growing out of your shy stage I think, although you’re bound to always be a little more reserved, I do believe. You’re funny and kind and sweet as sugar. You love the beach and swimming in the pool, you love cartoons and snuggle time in the morning. You eat watermelon like it’s the only food on the planet, you love Mexican and Cajun and salads and anything chocolate!! You make us laugh until our sides hurt, you sing at the top of your lungs and dance like a mad man. The joy you bring to our lives every day is so abounding, it’s limitless…

Mommy struggles with you not having a sibling. I worry that you’ll be lonely as an adult, that you’ll begin to feel that hole that shouldn’t be there. I still struggle so much baby, I know it’s been almost 3 years, but it still hurts so much that your brother is not here. It makes me anxious and a worrier and sometimes I know I have a harder time letting go of you than I should. Thank you for still loving me in spite of myself. You are truly my world little man, my everything, my always, my forever. The past year has been good to us, quiet and simple and busy with all the everyday things that make days turn into weeks, into months, into another year gone by. I say every year and every year in this letter that the past year has been my favorite stage of you, and again it’s true. I loved 5, you became more independent, you stayed the tender hearted boy you’ve always been, and you grew what seems like a foot! You branched out and learned and experienced and yet you stayed you. No momma could ever be prouder or more in love than I.

Tomorrow you will be six.

SIX!!

Six years worth of crazy love,
Momma


I love you for all that you are, and all you will grow to be...



Thursday, August 25, 2011

A little trip to Disney...

Before school started, Greyson and I made a quick trip to Disney for the day, followed by a trip with Daddy the week after... Disney with him just becomes more and more fun... He walks the park, holding my hand, we veer of course to see everything that catches his eye, take breaks in the shade when his legs get tired, we people watch and ride all the rides, we check out shops and see the shows... He indulges mommy by posing for pictures, I indulge him by paying crazy high prices for ice cream in the shape of Mickey Mouse... It works, for both of us...

Here are a few cute pictures of the two of us from the two trips... I have tons more to share of just him, daddy and him and even a family picture or two!! (Thanks foreign strangers who always offer to take our picture!!)


Seriously... How cute is his little grin?!? SO cute!


Cracking up at mommy trying to get us and the Epcot Ball!!

Stranger Danger!! Unless of course they are offering to take your pic...

Two thumbs up for Hollywood Studio's!!


We're settling in to our new routine of full day school... He's loving every second of it and we couldn't be more proud of him.


More Disney fun to come!! :) Yay!

Monday, August 22, 2011

Kindergarten...

Oh! The places you will go!!


Today - Kindergarten.


Yep, my baby is in Kindergarten... KINDERGARTEN!!

Saturday, July 2, 2011

and then his momma was a tri-athlete!!!

Last Saturday I competed in, finished and fell in love with the triathlon. I've been thinking of doing one for a while, but got serious a couple of months ago and started training hard. It was probably one of the best race experiences I have had to date! Way better than my disaster of a half-marathon this spring... Ugh!! I think the best part was having my boys at the finish line and Greyson even running in right behind me. The race was close to home, so the boys slept in and made it down in time to see me finish... Here are a few pics and a video of me crossing the line... The clock says, 1:17:15, but I started in the 2nd wave so I started 3 minutes into the clock, so my official time, was 1:14:15 - which blew my goal time of 1:20:00 out to the water!!



Headed to the finish line!! I was so happy to see Greyson!!
(I'm the runner coming in on the left, pink shirt...)




Stacey gives the best hugs after races!!



Rosie and I!! Rosie is my go to workout partner!!
Coach Carrie and I. This is the one who got me started!!



The TRI gang... (and Greyson...)









Monday, June 20, 2011

...

Yes, He really IS this stinkin' cute... (sigh...)


both inside and out...

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Swoon....

This child is too much... Too much cuteness, too much sweetness, too much love and tender hearted-ness, too much laughter, too much care, too much good. And yet, this child is just right, perfection even. And oh, how I love him!!

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Let's talk T-ball...

This spring we played our 3rd season of T-ball... We've had wonderful experience with the PAL league and T-ball up to this point and were excited to start another season... Then opening day rolled around and we just knew we were in for it... It was a rough season, we started with a coach who simply put, was not equipped to coach and finally about half way through the season he ended up being fired... yep, fired from a volunteer position... Also, Greyson was playing basketball at the same time and so we were tired to say the least, the broken finger kept him out of a few weeks worth of games and then... he got hit super hard running to second base and ended up with a severely sprained wrist that kept him out of the last 2 games... We were pretty glad when the season was over... We needed a break!! The biggest bummer was that our team was not told when photo day was so our entire team not only missed team photo's but individual photo's as well, so I did our team photo, but we didn't get the professional individuals like we have for every other season... bummer.

Even through the rough season though, Greyson was a trooper and he does still love the sport and is definitely progressing!! His fielding skills have come super far and he was one of the only kids on our team who could hit a pitched ball rather than hitting off of the tee... So more than likely when fall ball rolls around we'll be playing again... Just no double sports again, it was TOO much!!

Here are a few pics from opening day and the team photo I took at the end of the season... Enjoy!!


#10, which he thought was awesome!!

hustling for the ball...
hitting the pitch!!! Way to go baby!!
and yes... his pants crack me up in this photo too!!

the smile that makes it all worth it!


PAL Spring League - Team Stingrays!!